Time Therapy

We always hear people saying, “Time will heal everything”. Time has a superpower because it never stops. When we drive during heavy rains, there are times when we feel lets wait until the rain stops and then proceed. It might be the safer option at times, but the other alternative is careful driving because as we move ahead sky clears and there may not be any rain a few kilometers ahead. We would have saved the time in covering the distance rather than waiting in the same place for time to change the weather condition and reduce the rainfall. In both choices we make, time plays its part but what is its impact in our life is something we have to choose and not let time decide. When at difficult times if we put a little effort to help ourselves heal, time will do its bit and we will reach a better place quicker than if we allow only time to do all the healing.

Life presents us with various situations where all of us think when time comes everything will be fine. But there are a lot of similar situations where only time cannot make everything fine. We are in a scientifically advanced society where every issue we face has a way of being handled without leaving its burden only to time. I have seen many such instances which I would like to quote: as life sets foot in this world, if we see there is delay in a child’s various milestones like sitting, walking, talking, social interaction etc. parents and the supporting extended family always suggest its okay if there is delay as they grow up everything will be fine. In school if a child is unable to cope with studies, parents think kids are lazy to study and are finding ways to avoid study time. When we reach an age where we start our professional career and if we are unable to plan and organize our daily routine it is considered as either incompetency, lethargy, procrastination or sometimes people might even think they are financially sound so the salary from this job is not very important and that is the reason they don’t take their work seriously and ultimately reasoning will be as time passes they will learn. Have we thought, in all these instances, is time the only solution which can resolve all the problems or do we have alternate ways of treating these issues with various therapies available at our disposal if we opt to reach the right place for help? Timely identification of our problems is the first step towards finding solution. Time can heal but only those aspects which are within its power. Every superpower has a limitation and so does time. Don’t leave everything to time to heal. You also owe something to time so that it can help you within its limits and ensure your efforts are acknowledged and empowered in a timely fashion.

Grieving is one such aspect of our life where only time can help us heal. But what is your contribution to time? Are you helping time to help you? During the past couple of years, we have lost our loved ones not only to covid but even due to various other reasons. There have been unfortunate times where we could not be with our family due to lock down and travel restrictions across the world. Time did play its role in helping us heal. The most amazing quality of time is it gets to work of healing without anyone asking for it to do so. But we humans are always experts to ignore the worth of anything we get for free. Instead of helping time to do its work freely we try to hold it back by restricting ourselves and holding back our emotions. Every individual has their own ways of coping with grief but there is no way of coping with it through denial. When you see someone saying they are okay when in tremendous pain it is a sign that they need help more than what time can do. Don’t leave everything to time because we are here to help time to do its bit and not ignore our effort and put all the pressure on time alone. We are lucky to be in an era where internet helps us search everything we need which is closer to us and also ensures the facilities available across the globe is accessible at our fingertips. Be the support to your loved ones when they need but also be enabled enough to identify when family is sufficient and when you need professional help to overcome grief. Seeking help is the best gift you can give yourself. Don’t ignore the warning signs which life throws at you which is not always loud enough to be heard.

Not many of us would be aware that unable to organize our day-to-day activities, unable to follow multiple instructions given at one go, unable to understand and comprehend simple passage are all issues which can be addressed and not be termed as incapability, laziness, or ignorance and sometimes even arrogance. Let’s change our perception of perceiving such assumptions. Not always we know the reason behind the action of an individual. Pre-conceived notion about every aspect of life makes us so ignorant of so many things that we ignore where we need help, how to seek help and where to go for help. We don’t see a problem unless the society calls it one. Before the release of the Bollywood movie “Tare Zameen Par” most of us never knew that there was something called as dyslexia and even now we only know dyslexia and no other learning disability which our kids go through so much in their day-to-day life and suffer because we adults are ignorant that they have a problem.

Every milestone of human development has a significance which if not met in time can cause ripple effect to that child as an individual. We adults ignore because as an adult everyone is dealing with their life, and we don’t think delayed developmental milestone is a problem. We are not taught to accept such problems which spurt during infancy and since society will tag you as “NOT NORMAL” so either we ignore, or we hide things, and the problem gets rotten within those covered blanket. Ultimately the sufferer is the individual and to an extent the people associated with them. So why allow the world to take and make decisions for us and conclude when time comes everything will be okay?

Therapy is not medicine and time is not therapy. Providing a financially secure life is not the only responsibility parents have for their kids. Identifying the problem which may not surface due to various reasons and most importantly because of our ignorance and finding solution at the right time gives us the life which every individual deserves.

Seeking help is a boon. Seeing someone needs help is a skill. Knowing what help they need is the talent. Be the boon to someone and change your skill to become the talent who can help time and therapy go hand in hand to make the difference which is a blessing everyone needs at some point in life.

Grief is nurtured when denial is ignored.
Development is denied when its delay is ignored.
Problem is amplified when its existence is ignored.

Address the problem to find the solution.
Accept the delay to work towards development.
Grief can be overcome only when we walk through it.

Emotions has only one way of being handled and that is by expression.
Time can heal everything only if we allow it to.
Covering the problem is no therapy.
Curing the problem is the right therapy which even time will bow to.